|Boosting Your Self-Esteem
- Identify your strengths - Make a list of things you do well that you can look at when you are feeling down. Be proud of what you do well. Possibly try some new things that you are interested in to see if you can find some new things that you could add to your list of strengths. Don't compare yourself to others, because everyone is different and does different things well.
- Work on Your Weaknesses - Pick something about yourself that you would like to improve and plan out a step by step process to do it. Don't make a bunch of big changes all at once.
- Give Yourself Credit - Pat yourself on the back. Accept praise when someone offers it.
- Reduce Stress - Learn about different relaxation techniques.
- Get Involved - Fun, useful, or creative activities can raise your self-esteem. Start a hobby, write poetry, build something, join a club, take up a new sport, tutor other students, or volunteer at a nursing home.
- Exercise (see exercise and fitness page)
- Share your Feelings - If you are sad, upset, or angry, let it out. Talk to a friend, family member, or describe your feelings in a journal.
Project A Positive Image
"I would always prefer to be a first rate version of myself than a second rate version of anyone else."
The way that you stand, move, and speak sends messages about yourself to everyone around you. It can even affect your self-esteem!
- Stand Up Straight - It tells others and yourself that you are confident.
- Put Some Spring In Your Step - It helps you to look friendly and fun to be with.
- Smile - It will make you feel better - believe it or not. Don't just smile to cover up hurt, though, you need to talk to someone about any hurt feelings you have so that you can smile easily and feel good about it.
- Breathe - Sometimes taking a deep breath helps you to feel stronger and more secure about talking or doing something that you feel insecure about.
- Keep Your Arms Relaxed - You look more secure and open to meeting people with you arms loose at your sides.
- Talk Positively to Others.
- Talk Positively to Yourself, Too.
Sources of Help
For help with your self-esteem, you can turn to:
- A Parent or guardian, or a friend's parent
- Other Family Members
- Student Assistance Programs
- School Counselors
- School Nurse
- Your Pastor or Rabbi
- Your Health-Care Provider (physician or nurse practitioner)